Judgement and Acceptance

I admit it! I can be selfish, inpatient, and whiney. I forget that “it’s not about me.”. I worry way too much about what could, should and might happen. I plan myself into a tight box too often. I can adopt an annoying “poor me” attitude over the littlest of things in hindsight. I can talk myself out of social situations because of my own awkwardness and shyness. I over analyze myself, and not in a helpful way. I can succumb to loneliness when in fact I know that I have people who care about me. I second guess myself. I feel guilty for asking for help.


I also know these to be true. I can be selfless and pathologically patient. I wear a shield of empathy and perspective with others who are struggling. I have faith and optimism in dire situations. My favorite memories are when I have been spontaneous. I pride myself in my perseverance and give myself credit for fighting big battles. I feel most confident when I reach outside of my comfort zone. I can laugh at myself and not take myself too seriously. I relish my alone time and time with dear friends. I know that I have intuitions that won’t guide me wrong. I’ve learned to reach out to others when I need help and have much gratitude for their assistance.

Often times, we forget that we possess the very strengths that are the antithesis of our weaknesses. It’s called being human - imperfect. I’m reminded that very little things in life are all black and white, or all-or-nothing. That includes me when I’m being one way or another. There’s this saying, “We judge others by their behavior. We judge ourselves by our intentions.” Humbly, this is a reminder to me that others are not all or nothing either. It is far better to judge others as having good intentions. I know that my behaviors don’t always reflect my good intentions. At risk of sounding corny, I am (we are) a human being not a human doing.

I pray that I can begin to be more mindful of being gentler with myself and others. We all are caring heavy burdens and are doing our best at this very moment.